Love, support, empathy, kindness, rapport, harmony, and compatibility — these are words in Venus’s bible. Recently a thought came tumbling into my mind and I realized it was inspired by Venus and represents an important expression of her Libra archetype. Being in the Sun’s month-long stay in the sign of Libra, I am not surprised that Libran values are dominating my mind and heart. The Libra archetype makes the art of relationship a sacred temple.
I was listening to a conversation between two people where one was more interested in making his own point than in hearing and receiving the other person’s thoughts and feelings. I felt sad for both… We have all done it and been there, on both sides... When one is observing, it is easier to see how helpful it would be to the relationship, and to the precious sense of relatedness in the relationship — if we realized that effective communication, not to mention a feeling of communion, only happens through a balanced give and take of expression and reception: not just seeking to be heard, seen, and understood, oneself, but making the effort to hear, see, and sincerely understand the other person as well. This give and take must happen on both sides, or there develops a one-sidedness in which the person who does not feel heard and seen eventually retreats inside — for, on a deep but subtle level, it feels as though his existence is not being acknowledged. Read more...
This is a painful feeling, even if it is not perceived consciously. Ordinarily the conversation continues at this point, but at least one of the participants will feel, to a degree, frustrated and invisible. This creates distance and resentment, and the sense of union or camaraderie is diminished. When both people are more interested in making their own points without listening and acknowledging the other, the quality of the interaction degenerates even more and becomes like two young children, before they have developed the capacity to actually relate, not speaking with each other, but speaking at each other.
The practice of truly listening to another is more than simply hearing words and responding with one’s own ideas. Often we do hear and understand but fail to explicitly articulate in some way that we hear and understand. This small omission weakens the sense of connection in that moment. In addition, the ideas of the one vehemently trying to make his point without first acknowledging the other person, usually lose power and are often lost altogether. I would go on to say that the power of the ideas is lost because the sense of deep communion has ruptured. It takes, for instance, not just a nod from the listener, and not just a pause on the listeners part before talking about his own experience, but genuine interest. Then, the texture of the listeners responses will reflect nods, pauses, and relevent questions which indicate the listeners caring about what the speaker is expressing, but more important yet, the listeners caring about the speaker, himself.
With the Sun in Libra, there is the opportunity to experience being more keenly attuned to the other person. It is an excellent time to consciously practice ones capacity to take in what the other person is seeking to share and express — to hold it, dwell with it, feel it inside, and actively respond about it — before switching the commentary over to ones own experience, thoughts, or feelings. That is the key. The one who has been heard, seen, and understood has received a gift, and the sense of communion prospers. To mutually gift one another in this way is one of the treasures of Venus and her sign, Libra.
This one seemingly small communication practice is so powerful that it can make or break a relationship, and has the power to rescue a failing relationship. These Venusian communication skills are not automatic and they often feel counter-intuitive, but If we applied them, our relationships — personal, professional, civic, and global — would be benefited with more mutual understanding, love, peace and unity.
These are high intensity days within a long-term process of change
Sep 18th-20th are high intensity days. Conflicts, crises, resolutions, and shifts that occur now are part of a long-term and deeply transformative process of change, which is happening on both the individual and collective level. On Sep 18th, Pluto stationed direct, right before the second of seven exact Uranus/Pluto squares on Sep 19th, giving this generational-changing/revolution-bringing aspect extra momentum. Then on Sep 20th, fast moving Mercury triggers the Uranus/Pluto square, which has the potential to stir unconscious or core issues up and into our thoughts, words, and day-to-day interactions. We may not be able to fully appreciate or understand the full impact of what is now in process, as there are still five more exact Uranus/Pluto squares to come through 2015. The seven squares in total indicate that it will be a profound series of changes and upheaval, unfolding over time, urging us to let go of outdated and restrictive structures within our psyches and within our societies. This process can feel challenging or scary, as a part of us has to die to the old way, but ultimately it correlates with a strong push forward and a rebirth that is aligned with liberation from internal and external limitations that are no longer serving.
Sep 15th, A New Moon in the mutable, earth sign of Virgo ♍. This is the perfect time to begin a new health or work routine. The New Moon supports you in clarifying intentions and initiating new ventures. The archetype of Virgo is about purification, analysis, and refinement. Virgo rules health, service, and all of the mundane details of the day-to-day — which must be accomplished in order to sustain life and create space for the sacred. Wherever 24º of Virgo falls in your chart is the area of life that will be activated and rejuvenated by this New Moon.
Venus is in Leo Sep 6 to Oct 3, 2012. Girls Just Want To Have Fun! Venus = girls (or your inner feminine). Leo = play and fun... Besides fun, Venus in Leo also relates to a dimension of art, relationships, and love that includes and inspires the highest and noblest qualities of human potential.
Mars in Scorpio has made himself known! Mars ♂ entered Scorpio ♏ on Aug 23rd and will be there through Oct 6, 2012. The warrior god, Mars, is now taking his military operation within, going down into the depths — first to investigate, and then to conquer whatever fears, blockages, or hidden complexes may be subliminally calling the shots or holding one back. Mars is full of courage, passion, and a certain rawness. The underlying motivation of the Scorpio archetype is to overcome barriers to authenticity and real intimacy. During this transit, excavations revealing hidden elements, tensions, internal struggles, and previously concealed sources of power, may be expected.
Mercury is now direct as of 1:40am (eastern time) today (after 3.5 weeks retrograde). Things may progress forward now, though the day or two before and after Mercury changes directions can be a little hectic.
Venus enters Cancer today. When I read Steven Forrest’s description it resonated strongly so I am sharing it here:
“Venus enters Cancer on the 7th of August and remains there until September 6th… Cancer, as the Cardinal Water sign, epitomizes sensitivity. And sensitivity implies vulnerability… As Venus passes through Cancer this month… We need the kind of love that is based on who we are rather than what we can do or offer. We all need to hear ‘I love you’ a few more times. And that means we need to chance saying it a few more times too! Read more...
You will also feel some shyness, even with people you love. That is Venus-in-Cancer too. Really dropping our defenses and surrendering to love makes us all nervous. We humans are ambivalent about being that vulnerable…While Venus passes through Cancer, you are invited to use your developing discrimination to update your heart’s defensive plans… It will not be as easy as it sounds. It takes a lot of courage to risk vulnerability. But what you are building is that classic Venus-in-Cancer foundation: the kinds of bonds that are strong enough to survive the trauma of death and rebirth. They are forged in vulnerability – vulnerability carefully aimed, but then accepted with ‘no exit.’”
There are instances when Mercury retrograde seems to bring the necessity of revisiting a problem (or problems) you thought you already solved. The challenge suddenly and mysteriously reappears and demands your attention again. The problem asks for resolution in another dimension of the issue — or at a deeper level. (Sigh) Here we go again! The Full Moon tonight may bring things to a head, and hopefully a light of clarity as well.
Today, expansive benevolent Jupiter (in airy networking Gemini) squares Chiron, “the wounded healer” (in mystical emotional Pisces). Jupiter in Gemini can correspond to open-mindedness and expansive ideas, while Chiron in Pisces can corresp
ond to surrendering one’s wounds or suffering over to a higher power. Squares can bring things to a crisis or a turning point. If a wound is poignantly felt today, so too may be found the willingness, openness, and opportunity to turn one’s gaze towards a spiritual light for a moment of real healing. Read more...
“Real healing is spiritual healing, whereby the soul, becoming free from desires, doubts and hallucinations, enjoys the eternal bliss of God. Untimely physical healing might retard the spiritual healing. If borne willingly, physical and mental suffering can make one worthy of receiving spiritual healing. Consider mental and physical suffering as gifts from God, which if accepted gracefully, lead to everlasting happiness.” ~Meher Baba
Mercury retrograde often corresponds to a time period for getting around to matters that were put on the back burner before — for at the time it just didn’t feel right to press forward or it was impossible to do so. But now as Mercury is in review mode — repairs, important conversations, and other timely adjustments may present themselves in a natural way for resolution.